Enter: Racial Relationships

Today's post is one that I have been prolonging for the simple fact that I just did not want to touch on it. I tried to stay away from it and wait for it to come to me before I discuss it with you all. Well that day arrived yesterday and if you're reading this while on the time clock at your job, I suggest you save this for later. What I want to do today is is open the door and invite you to enter, racial relationships.

It's no secret that I'm a knowledgeable man when it comes to wireless devices. Yesterday this young Brother who could not have been any older than 12 years old came up to me and asked me if I had any idea what was wrong with his cell phone because he could no longer send or receive text messages. Immediately I'm thinking "who the hell are you texting anyway at your age?" but I was a kid once, I underwent puberty, so I smiled when it hit me that's the age when girls scouts start looking good, and the boy scouts start to pitch tents...in their pants.

So I smiled at the kid and told him not to worry, I'd get his phone up and running in no time. So I asked him to give me the phone so I could look at it and there is this picture of a little girl on his wallpaper. A non-black girl at that. Immediately I was taken back by this because for one I was not expecting to see a little girl on his wallpaper and even if I was expecting it, I would have never guessed it would be a non-black girl. I say non-black because I'm not sure what her ethnicity was. So I asked the young Brother, "who is this your girlfriend?" and he replied "Yes." Immediately after he responded he got this timid look on his face as if he knew what my next question was, like he had been battling this demon, since he put the picture up. So I had to ask, he's a young Brother, I need to know these things. I asked "You get the panties yet?"

I'm kidding I didn't ask him that!

I didn't ask him anything. Once he said that was his girlfriend I smiled and did what he asked me to do which was get his phone working again. He thanked me for it and he went on about his business, his non-black business I assume.

Interracial relationships are so much more common in 2008 then they were in 1958 yet it's still frowned upon by a boat load of people, no pun intended. 

I said I was taken back because I wouldn't expect a brother so young to have a girlfriend who wasn't of his ethnic background. Beauty is beauty don't get me wrong, but when you're young you don't understand, which is another reason why I smiled at the situation. When I was that age, I had a non-black girlfriend, I think she was from Saudi-Arabia or something. To this day I don't really know. It didn't matter to me that she wasn't black, all I cared about was that I liked her, and she liked me back. That's all that mattered.

In 2008 that's all that should matter, but sadly it doesn't matter to people who are on the outside looking in. When I had that girlfriend my mom didn't even like her calling the house. Not because I was too young to talk on the house phone to a girl, but when my mom answered the phone, the girl "sounded white." That in itself is the most ridiculous thing ever, but hey that was the deal. That's my mom and I love her for everything she is and isn't. The girl sounded white and it pissed my mom off and she was rude to the girl every time she called. Come to think of it my high school sweetheart, if you want to call her that, has a "white name," "sounded white" when she called, and the first time my mom saw her, her face hit the floor.

What I realize now that I'm older is that my mom wanted the best for me, and in her eyes the best for me was what she had always envisioned for me. Needless to say that wasn't some "white" girl or "white sounding" girl. I never understood how one could sound or act a color but people say it all the time.

America puts on this front as if there are no more racial tensions and everything is equal but it's not and I think that's the biggest reason why women, generally Black women, don't like the idea of a Black man with any other ethnic group. To a Sister it comes across like "white women can have anything in the world, they got to have Black men too!?!?" I use the word Sister for a lot of reasons, one being the fact that they are MY SISTERS as one of my best friends says. It should be painfully obvious that they are MY SISTERS because they are not HIS, although, he like me, is a Black man. He's my boy and I love him like a brother, but he prefers non-black women and we debate about this all the time. He swears that his mentality is not that he doesn't like Black women, it's that he prefers anything other than Black and if she is Black by no means can she be BLACK, she has to be light, bright, almost white or white. Anything other than Black. 

That's his thing, I'm not mad at him, I'm all for his success but the problem is what he does is generalize much of what a man experiences with a Sister as a scenario that you will only experience with a Sister. I use this friend of mine as an example because he represents much of what is wrong with the world. The world is brainwashed into Whitney Houston, crack head delusions that Black "is wack." For instance if a conversation comes up when all our boys get together and somebody mentions how a Sister got mad over something that seemed insignificant, to him his reasoning is justified. In reality WOMEN in general have the tendency to get upset over things that seem insignificant to men. It's a woman thing. It's not an ethnic thing.

I personally prefer a Sister over any other race and that's the norm. There are more people on earth who prefer their own kind over another because there are just some things that as a Black man you won't understand about the hispanic culture or the white woman won't understand about the Black culture, or whatever the interracial combo is. I find a lot of women from different ethnic backgrounds to be extremely attractive but the flip side is I've seen more attractive Sisters than any other ethnic group of women, but that's me.

Let a Sister tell it, Brothers sell out to white women because they aren't strong enough to deal with a Black woman. That may be true but I'm not 100% sure about that. What I am sure about is Sisters hate to see attractive brothers with white women. Sisters are already self conscious about enough things as it is and seeing that doesn't help. They feel as if white women are sluts and submissive and essentially become slaves to the Black penis because they'll do whatever a Black man tells them to do sexually or in general. I'm not sure about whether that is the case because I'm not proficient in the art of the snow bunny (white woman). What I do know is that there are a few guys who have had one or two white women and they feel like they are all kinky.

LET ME GO ON RECORD AND SAY THIS, BLACK WOMEN ARE KINKY TOO!

I'll admit it, I don't know much about snow bunnies and honestly I don't care to know about them. I have white friends that I hang out with, but I don't like hanging out in the places they frequent because there is always a group of "smoking hot" white women who'll approach us and they're all giddy and what not, and then they're snickering to one another like "who's the token?" That in itself is enough to turn me off of white women.

Hispanic women get the pass because generally they grow up in urban areas or in areas in there native land that resemble the "ghettos" of America. Hispanic women in they eyes of Black women are lighter skinned Sisters who just so happen to be fluent in another language.

Asian women aspire to be white women because they get "white washed" causing them to lose any connection with their ancestry and in turn they adopt the white American practices and way of life. In the eyes of a Sister, she's a CaucASIAN.

Two women were having a conversation around me, one of which was Pakistani the other was Nigerian. They were speaking on their preferences and how they would only marry men from their respective countries. The Pakistani girl asked the Nigerian girl whether or not she has ever dated an "American" and her response was "hell no, I only date Nigerians." The Nigerian girl in turn asks me if I ever dated a Nigerian girl and I responded accordingly...

"HELL NO!" And she wants to look at me like I'm crazy after she just disrespected me and every Brother from America. Then to add insult to injury she proceeds to say "If you ever get a chance to date one, you should. We're the best." Ha! Okay Khaled.

Granted I love my Sisters, but it's no secret that "most Africans don't like us no way." (Nas) When it comes to our Sisters from the mother land, Nigerian women don't do it for me. Quite frankly I don't like them for the simple fact that I've met about 15 in my lifetime. I'd say 14 of them were rude bitches, who hated Americans and I'd say 15 of them were all unattractive to me.

I think that if the world was truly equal and everybody had the same opportunities or went through the same hardships, the race thing wouldn't be an issue but it is. You don't believe me?Brothers go to Waco, TX and try to make a pass at some white women and see how many times it takes you to rope one in, if you don't get roped from a tree first.

I, JLB, find that there are attractive women in all ethnic groups but I have to spread a few words of advice for my Brothers who think "black is wack." Brothers, if you are going to go out and get you a WHITE WOMAN what you must do, and this is an absolute must; YOU MUST get you a WHITE WOMAN that is more attractive then any of the Sisters you could have had. You can not get a WHITE WOMAN who is average or below average in the looks department because all you do is further prove Sisters right by saying you're weak because you would rather date an average white woman than an upper echelon Sister. I guarantee you, that if you have a white woman such as the one I just described, you'll still be hated by your fellow Sisters, but it won't be because you didn't make a quality decision, it'll be because you've found one that upstages all the Sisters you know.

In closing, what made the encounter with the young Brother with the cell phone so significant is that he represents what the world should be. He likes his girl and she likes him back, what everybody else thinks doesn't matter. When you're that age you're completely oblivious to the subtle racial divides such as the best schools in the area being the white schools, which I'm sure he attends. Black, Brown, White, Yellow whatever. If it makes you happy I will never tell you to do otherwise, but I will put your ass in check if you think your avoiding "drama" or "bull crap" by dating women in another ethnic group. Ironically, what you're really doing is signing up for a different kind of drama that you're oblivious to, because you're not a member of that ethnic background. Go Obama! 

I encourage everybody to leave feedback on this one because I really want to know what you all think in comparison to What JLB Thinks.