That Ain't Love

So a long time friend of mine posed the question "Do you think a person can love 2 people at the same time?" I don't know. See you next blog.

Lol, but all jokes aside, I've never thought of it until this question was thrown my way and after hours of contemplation and the deepest of sleeping on it, it is possible to love 2 people at the same time. It is possible but everybody's definition/perception of love is not the same and that is what one needs to consider when reading this.

Love should be everlasting. It's not a mood. You're happy when you get paid and you're sad when you're broke. You can't love a person when they're making you happy and not love them when they're pissing you off. Because "that ain't love, love." (LB) It is possible to love a person but no longer want to be involved with them for whatever reason that ignites the desire to part.

 

Everybody's definition of love is different. More often than not I hear people say "I love him/her, but I'm not in love with him/her." That statement to me is absurd. The term "in love" is something that somebody created in their mind. Usually it's WOMEN who I hear say this malarkey and they justify it by saying, "you love your mom, but you're not in love with her, so it is possible to love a person and not be in love with them. If you got married you wouldn't love your wife like you love your mom." To some degree that's true, because I'm going to have sex with my wife but I'm not going to have sex with my mom. Some people call that "making love," which I hate to inform you is not love. It's sex, which is a form of affection which is the word choice people should use when they try to distinguish how you can love your mother differently than your significant other. The love is the same but it's the affection or the way you show them you love them is what may vary. Got it? Good!

Nevertheless people view love differently. I myself feel that if you love somebody, that measurement of love should be equal to anybody else you love whether it's a friend or relative. For instance I like to keep my personal stuff out of my blogs but let me give you an example of what I mean. I love my grandmothers and my mother which means, that under no circumstance will I leave them hanging out to dry nor will I ever tell them that I can't do something for them when I can nor will I ever say that I no longer love them because of something that they did or said to me regardless of how bad it may have been. The love will always be there. Now the average Joe or Josephine would say well JLB the love you have for them is different then if you met a woman you grew to love her. And i would say that that average person, that's where you are wrong. Because everything I just said applies to my closest friends and any woman that I would perk my lips to say, I love. If I say I love a person, whoever it is, it means that I would do anything I could to help them and if it meant that I had to sacrifice my life to spare theirs, I would. But the fact that everybody views love differently is what makes this such a broad topic.

Now that I've gotten that out the way I say it is possible to love 2 people at the same time based on my definition of love. My definition doesn't have a caste system that states X gets this type of love, Y gets that type of love and Z gets a little bit of both. For it to be like that would be ridiculous. I said it's possible to love 2 people at the same time but the circumstance under which the probability of loving 2 people at the same time would occur, is totally dependent upon the individual and their behavioral patterns. If you're the type to "network" as somebody mentioned in the comment section of the SPRING FEVER blog, then I could see how that could happen. Networking meaning you date several people simultaneously, to hold a "try-out" if you will. Then it's probable that if you like 2 people equally and you invest just as much time in one as the other then the probability is very high. Especially if you can't make a decision on who of the two, is going to be that "one" for you.

The same could be said if you're transitioning from a failed relationship into anew. Love should be everlasting so that feeling of love, if it's true love will never dissolve, all those other feelings such as whether or not you're attracted to them mentally, sexually, or what have you, would probably be non-existent but you would still love that person...but that's just What JLB Thinks

Here's a song about love that I'd like to share